This article is also available in: German Maybe you told yourself and felt already in your life: “You are just not there yet!” “Everything in life goes against you,” or “I will never reach my goals.” By building up your self-esteem, this can be radically changed! Most people with low self-esteem have feelings of shame or envy, heavy self-criticism, dissatisfaction, or perfectionism, which can lead to frustration when perfection is not achieved. The state of your self-love is also a big factor of higher self-esteem, because when you start loving yourself more, self-esteem gets more and more easy. For that, later, you are always welcome to read our complete self-love blueprint. Anyway, let us find out powerful ideas and strategies to build up our self-esteem. When you believe you already have a great, built-up self-esteem, maybe there are one or two abilities that you can still detect to improve on. These abilities can be invisible for your conscious mind.

1. Others Aren’t Better Than You

Stop thinking that others are better than you. We all have our unique qualities in life. Therefore, all of the higher and lower consciousness talks are totally bogus.

You are right at the perfect place—ALWAYS.

The only one that loves to tell you the opposite is your second inner voice of the mind—that voice seems never overly satisfied or fully in harmony. The more this voice rules your daily life, the worse your quality of life is getting. A lot of people already gave up and victimized themselves over that second inner voice. What is the true inner voice? It is the voice where all of your intuition, love, and harmony takes place. However, a lot of people have lost the connection to their true inner voice. The idea and strategy have to be to reflect your inner voices, write your thoughts down on paper, and check which talks are from the true inner voice and which are from the second inner voice (ego-minded). That is a very powerful daily implementation in your life. How to detect which inner voice it is? The ego-minded inner voice is always loud, harsh, and at one moment, that voice is certain of one decision, and in the next moment, it jumps to the conclusion of another decision. That voice is also hectic, selfish, and disturbs your true goals in life. Your true inner voice is soft, clear, and quieter in the talks. The goals and decisions that are made stay mostly the same. This voice speaks from the heart and often cannot be grasped with the mind. For many, this is also a gut feeling or tingling and is associated with the feeling of joy.

2. Learn to Be Alone with Yourself

Start to be even more with yourself in a conscious way, because if you are only there for others, you miss the balance to take time for yourself. For that, it does not even matter if you are working in a company or working on yourself, because when you do not use any time for your own reflections in meditation practices and other mindfulness practices, you are a part of an automatic machine that you wish to break out of but you never actually broke out of. You are in the DOING mode without ever thinking that this very mode has brought you to where you are in life today. This mode is based on memory and not intelligence. Memories are based on the past and create again and again your past in the future. Intelligence allows you to create a whole new reality. The illusion can be that you think you broke out . . . but in reality, that is far from your inner peace, harmony, and wealth where you wish to be.

In this illusion, you plan and work for the future!

That way you cannot live in the present! Also, take time to reflect on your days and weeks and always ask take a pause and if necessary ask yourself efficient questions that let you be more of how you already are. Three ideas for how these questions can look like:

1. Is what you are doing the way you want to express your full potential in life?
2. Is there a more efficient way that you can be a lot happier? Do you act towards these goals?
3. What is the purpose of what you are doing in your life? Does it really lead you to the higher-conscious state of your mind and life where you want to be?

3. Our Inner World, an Outer Reflection

Your body is a reflection of your inner world.

• Does your body look healthy?
• Does your body look unhealthy?
• How much do you care about your physical body?
• Do you regularly drink alcohol or smoke cigarettes, and do you think it is helping your overall health or not?
• Do you eat in a respectful and healthy way?
• When was the last time you really went deep inside yourself and felt everything that is going on?

A great looking body and a nice radiance reveals most about our inner body “thought and emotional balance”.

My inner world changed with patience and radical activism!

For instance, I myself had a very bad body shape for a very long period of my life, and a lot of unneeded fat and unhealthy eating behaviors most of my life. However, just recently, it was possible for me to switch out some of the deeper unhealthy programs and behaviors for more friendly and positive behaviors for myself and my environment. For the very first time in my life, I balanced out my body, mind, and soul to a higher level of consciousness. Therefore, I have a lot more energy every day. I am more positive and happier than ever before. Besides the health side of my body, true friendships arise. Also, a stronger partnership with my wife is the result of my inner world developments and several other bigger changes. For that, I really took a lot of my time to transform my life. This is not a 20-minutes-per-day job, this is a full time job for 2-3 years and more! Radical activism and self-discipline are the only way to go into a deep inner flow and feel daily momentum for everything that is. At the same time, this also means letting go and being patient. When we try to manifest with our willpower what does not originate from our being, a huge field of tension arises which is noticeable for us. The full-time job over years or lifetimes requires both an active phase of realization and a more passive phase of letting go.

• What changes do you pursue this year or in the near future?
• How did you build up self-esteem over the years?
• How were you able to transform your life already?

Bonus: An Authentic Method

My Favorite System: Discover Your Strengths, Weaknesses and the Higher Purpose of Life

Gene Keys is a magical system, not a mechanical system. A path to the open countryside, which can be performed online. I highly recommend you to read my new Gene Keys article – My Deep Inner Exploration for You + Amazing Tools That system, mentioned above, massively increased the quality of life for me, healed my soul parts massively, and also helped me feel more and more gratitude from the earth, because the earth heals itself sustainably through our THINKING, FEELING, and DOING! Comment below about your story! I am happy to read it.

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We all love to hide our true feelings towards our physical death and therefore also our ego death. At some point in our life and time, our physical body is not supporting us anymore to achieve our upcoming goals, so why should we continue at that time? Well, today, I do not want to philosophize about our final death. This article is about the possibility of our ego death within our current form. What does the internet say about the ego death? Wikipedia writes the following: “The ego death is a complete loss of subjective self-identity.” Therefore, after the death of ego, true objectiveness is seems a possibility. The great philosopher and spiritual teacher Eckart Tolle quotes about the ego: “The most common ego identifications have to do with possessions. The work you do, social status and recognition, knowledge and education, physical appearance, special abilities, relationships, person and family history. Also belief systems, and often nationalistic, racial, religious, and other collective identifications. None of these is you.”  – Eckart Tolle So, most individuums do not live the truth beyond their mind constructions, and therefore, the only certainty that exists if an individuum has not remembered his true being is a subjective reality.

What is the Intention and Illusion of Our Ego-Construct?

Our ego-construct wants to stay alive as long as possible. Our physical mind is a great mechanism, if understood correctly, and at the same time, we still have a lot of outdated subconscious programs running. For example, the fear of getting killed by a wild animal. To an extent, it helps us to survive because of the stress released to push our bodies beyond our limits, and to another extent, it hurts us because, in harmless situations, we release exactly the same stress. This means that a lot of our inherited subconscious programs and experiences from very early times in our development as an individuum helped us out in the survival process tens of thousands of years ago. But today in our digital world, we funnily enough still act like we did tens of thousands of years ago. For instance, meeting strangers can be considered a danger by our internal system. Also, a common challenge is the fear of animals that can release the same level of stress as the frightening animals tens of thousands of years ago. We humans are just afraid of stress. It is as simple as that.

What can we all do?

First of all, we have to accept that we have our ego-construct and that we are led by fear and inner fights before we are able to transcend our ego into a more stable characteristic environment. The objective truth is that releasing our fear of ego death plays the biggest role in a peaceful inner world. Therefore, it is essential for a higher state of frequency and consciousness to transcend the ego-construct and release all limited beliefs.

Can We Transcend to an Ego-Free Environment?

What is our current status quo? Our ego loves to talk, and for most humans, something like this is deeply imprinted in our DNA: “You have to survive, because you cannot be certain that there is a reality beyond your current life.” Therefore, we feel forced to do horrible things to ourselves, just to survive a little bit longer. After we die, our ego-construct also dies, and that is the biggest fear of our ego. From a survival point of view, our society reflects that behavior. So, in my opinion:

“As humans, we still need time to fully grow beyond our outdated ego-construct.”

Also, masters of life say that personal goals are always a part of the ego and we all have personal, financial, or business goals. That is one of the reasons we would never fully leave the ego circle. Luckily, today, we see more and more individuals that are aware and care about a purpose beyond their individual life purpose. In the first place, this is a collective purpose for the well-being of our planet Earth and humanity. However, does that illustrate that soon we are free from our ego behaviors?

“The moment you become aware of your ego, it is strictly speaking no longer the ego, but just an old, conditioned mind-pattern. Ego implies unawareness. Awareness and ego cannot coexist.” – Eckart Tolle

Awareness seems the key for the process beyond our ego-construct, and our current frequency of fear holds us back from experiencing a reality beyond.

3 Peaceful Ideas of Ego Death

First idea: Do not pursue the ego death.

In our society, it seems like a lot of people pursue the death of their ego. Even more common is that people are sure that they are freed from their ego.

As long as we think our ego really exists, we will never be able to fully transcend ourselves.

Second idea: Nothing exists as it seems.

We are easy to believe that we only live in one reality and that is our current life with our physical body. We limit ourselves to stay inside the box of our physical body, because anything beyond that box could be dangerous, even kill us. However more and more people are experiencing out-of-body experiences, sudden enlightenment, or near-death experiences. We also should be open to the possibility of alternative realities. A dream is one alternative reality, for example. Yet, in our materialist world, we are still so easy to convince the opposite. Our ego is an impressive brainwasher, and because we only see the worlds past, it is almost impossible to believe in the invisible.

Third idea: Become friends with the ego.

A very good idea is to become friends with your ego. In other words, the goal is that you understand the motives of your ego, and later on, you have the free will to act from an ego perspective or not. We cannot always consider the ego to be the devil in our “mind” universe, because when we start to do so, there is no way to jump out of the illusion.

Boni: An authentic method to find “ego peace” Discover Your Strengths, Weaknesses and the Higher Purpose of Life

Gene Keys is a magical system, not a mechanical system. A path to the open countryside, which can be performed online. I highly recommend you to read my new Gene Keys article – My Deep Inner Exploration for You + Amazing Tools That system, mentioned above, massively increased the quality of life for me, healed my soul parts massively, and also helped me feel more and more gratitude from the earth, because the earth heals itself sustainably through our THINKING, FEELING, and DOING! So, what can we really do at the end? We can be thankful, authentic and enjoy our journeys.

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This article is also available in:  German The growing diagnosis of anorexia nervosa (eating disorders) in our society is incredible. Roughly 90 percent are women between 12 and 25 years of age. This is a great example of the illusion of needing acceptance. Especially through the beauty industry the image of the beautiful woman is completely controlled by fear. Individuals that have an eating disorder could think: “My body is way too thick,” “I do not feel comfortable in my own body,” or “For sure, others think that I am fat.” As an illustration, these thoughts and sensations are the backbones for these irrational eating behaviors. How can we accept ourself and let go irrational behaviors? I found 3 incredible strategies that helped me, and a lot of others, to avoid long-term irrational behaviors. These are bulletproof strategies when implemented correctly in daily life.

First Strategy – A Survey with Close Friends and Family

This is really simple and, at the same time, very challenging. Just ask your close friends and family to share details about you! Also, be honest with them and tell them the motive behind your intimate/personal survey.

Ideas for your survey.

The best idea is to call your friends and family and explain it to them personally. Writing in WhatsApp or chat is okay; however, this is not challenging, and misunderstandings can happen quite a lot. Your life is the most important thing to you, isn’t it? Therefore, value the lives of others and make the survey as personal as possible! Think about something honest. For instance, a story about “how I did not accept myself.” This is always fitting and emphasizes the fact that your close friends and family can help you out in your own personal growth. One example/topic: Hey, I came up with a strategy to be more confident about myself and accept myself. Maybe we never talked about this before (if that is the case). For a long time, I’ve really had problems going out to parties because I feel I am not worthy of having a girlfriend/boyfriend, and at the same time, I do not want to fail at talking to a nice girl/boy and be hurt. For that reason, I developed a short survey to find out what others like about me, because I have a hard time finding/reflecting a strength that helps me to be more confident in this topic. It would be a great help, if you have 5 minutes, to do the survey. Tip: Also, ask them to do it directly on the phone, when there is time, or meet up together, because you learn a lot more. Basically anything can be a topic:

• Not accepting your own physical body.
• Not accepting your way of learning.
• Having a hard time outside when talking to strangers.

Ideas for the survey questions.

(Fit in your name in all the questions below.)

• List at least 3 different things you like about the person.
• In which 2 situations did the person help you the most?
• List at least 2 physical characteristics you like about the person.
• List at least 2 mental characteristics you like about the person.

Very important: Add at least 4 more individual questions to the list on your own. Why is this strategy helpful for your self-acceptance? First of all, you move outside of your comfort zone. Especially individuals that lack some sort of self-acceptance or self-love have an incredibly hard time even talking about this. 

“Have the courage and open yourself to the unknown, because only then will the universe open up all the possibilities you yearn for!”

Second Strategy – Find Everything you Love about Yourself

When you start to focus on the fact that you do not accept yourself, it is almost impossible to get out of that negative spiral. First of all, you have to be aware enough to also see the good inside and that it is only your decision when you want to end the negative spiral.

A good starting point to accept yourself more is to find everything about yourself that you like or love.

Create a list with 5-10 things you like and 2-3 things you love about yourself. It’s important that this can be anything for you to imagine (body, soft skills, hard skills, mental skills). For example:

• 1. I love my voice.
• 2. I like my eye color.
• 3. I like my job.
• 4. I like my big toes.
• 5. I love my hair.
• 6. I am a good listener.
• 7. I am a good teacher.
• 8. I am a peaceful person.
• 9. I love to read books.

Is it hard to find something for you? A good approach is to start with the first strategy to do a survey with friends and family. This way, it is much easier for you to accept and find something you also agree with. Another good strategy is to let go and continue to think about what you really like/love about yourself.

Third Strategy – Loosen up Your Weaknesses

Maybe you read the header “Loosen up your weaknesses!” and you think: Let me explain in detail why your weaknesses are as important as your strengths. For example, it could be one of your strengths that you are very open-minded, and so it is easy for you to make decisions in your life. A open-minded decision could be to go on a spontaneous trip to South Africa. But why do you really think about a trip in the first place? Is it really beneficial to travel now? This depends on your circumstances. For example, one of your weakness is that you have a hard time mastering something new. For instance, reaching native level in a new language or learning to be an extraordinary investor. You have the following challenge: you always feel unhappy in the middle of the procedure when you start to be okay at the new language or you get good at investing. Why is it important to know your weakness (difficulty mastering something)? It is crucial to loosen up your weakness because it is connected to your strengths (open-mindedness and easy decision making). Knowing this, you have the freedom to act accordingly because this unhappiness above (not reaching the master level quick enough) activates your strengths. It might be that your thoughts and ideas of the spontaneous trip to South Africa came up in your mind because you reached a certain level of your weakness, in this case mastering a new language.

The strong and proud act of illusion.

“Yes, let’s go on a spontaneous trip to South Africa! I earned it” At that moment, it seems so positive to act open-mindedly, but if you only do the trip to escape from your true goals, it messes everything up. However, only knowing and focusing on the weakness is not enough. You have to transform your weakness into another strength by re-programming your subconscious mind. Slowly but steadily, you integrate another strength, or first, you neutralize your weakness. Strengths and weaknesses are very close to each other! So, only focusing on your strengths and hiding your weaknesses can quickly imbalance your system.

Knowing both your strengths and weaknesses is essential.

Therefore, a very good strategy is to write everything you know about your strengths and weaknesses down. By doing so, it is a lot easier to accept yourself.

“Every shadow contains a gift!”

– Richard Rudd – Gene Keys **

My Favorite System: Discover Your Strengths, Weaknesses and the Higher Purpose of Life

Gene Keys is a magical system, not a mechanical system. A path to the open countryside, which can be performed online. I highly recommend you to read my new Gene Keys article – My Deep Inner Exploration for You + Amazing Tools That Gene Keys system, mentioned above, massively increased the quality of life for me, discovering my weaknesses and strengths on a whole new level massively, and also helped me to feel more and more gratitude from earth, because our earth heals itself sustainably through our THINKING, FEELING, and DOING!

Bonus Strategy – How to Accept Yourself?

In my main article (Complete Self-Love Blueprint) are a lot of detailed methods to remember/learn that help to immensely improve your self-acceptance.

The Implementation

That you do all the strategies above is only the first step towards self-acceptance, because you have to implement it in your neural network as a daily habit. The key: commit thirty to sixty days for one habit. To be able to do so, make it simple, remind yourself, stay consistent, and run it as an experiment. Lifehack also writes in detail about 18 easy tricks to make new habits stick! I can recommend reading it.

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People around the world rarely talk about “the suicide issue”. But can depression kill you? Sometimes the public hears about a celebrity that has successfully committed suicide, and it is not very uncommon for families to have experienced at least one suicide case.

Important: Take any suicidal talk or behavior seriously. It’s not just a warning sign that the person is thinking about suicide—it’s a cry for help.

This article is great to read if you…

• … know someone that wants to commit suicide.
• … know someone that committed suicide.
• … are in danger of committing suicide.
• … are having a hard time processing a previous suicide experience of a friend or family member

I’m speaking about this serious topic “can depression kill you?” here because there was a time in my life where I wanted to give up on life, too. Therefore, I love to share my reflections with you on the causes of suicidal intentions as well as the personal insights I gained from experiencing the danger of suicide.

There are lots of topics people are not willing to openly talk about and suicide definitely is one of them. My mission is to help people have a more peaceful and loving mental state because this is exactly what helps to decrease depression and suicide attempts dramatically.

In that way, in an instant, hardships like depressions or suicide attempts decrease dramatically.

My Own Story. Can Depression Kill You?

At the age of 17 to 19 I experienced a time of pure uncertainty in my life. I wasn’t sure if my life really mattered.

After having had four major knee injuries I almost broke apart. I repressed myself, while also going through outbursts of rage. It was extremely painful and I was tormented by thoughts, asking myself what I had done to deserve this. At this time I ate more unhealthy food and played way too many computer games.

…and my mental condition deteriorated. More and more, I withdrew from the physical world. I thought; “Can depression kill you?”

Those feelings of depression, of not being loved by others, not knowing what to do with my life, along with too many thoughts kept my stress levels high.

Therefore, I thought about simply ending my life and was on the verge of committing suicide. But can depression kill you or me?

The Power of Hope

I am sure all suicide attempts or thoughts have one thing in common: the uncertainty of one’s own future and a very painful present manifestation through a state of hopelessness.

However, there is always hope.

Believe it or not. At least, even if you do not believe in yourself right now, others always do.

There is a higher reason for you to choose your life. Do you want to know one of the reasons?

“If you are suffering from pain or depression transform it into love.”

So, for example, if you give up on this life, there is absolutely no certainty that the pain or depression will just stop. Actually, the probability is incredibly high that this is not the case.

I had hope for myself, so I continued, and I am extraordinarily happy and thankful that I did.

Why Do People Think About and Commit Suicide?

Let me tell you about five mental and emotional reasons behind suicidal thoughts and actions.

Losing Hope in Life

For example, you experienced a serious health issue and solved it – however, it has returned now. Maybe your family or friends suffer from the same disease, too.

Giving Up on Dreams and Goals

For example, you may have had this great willpower to achieve your goals for a long period of time. Sadly, it seems impossible to reach them now and/or you’ve failed a lot of times.

Self-Victimization

Losing hope and giving up is often accompanied by a tendency to victimize yourself. I call this the “mimimi-effect” – you never feel responsible for your own life. In this case, it is important to seek professional support.

A Certain Predisposition

I won’t go into this too much, but I know some people say that having a certain brain predisposition can lead to a higher probability of experiencing depression. What I believe 100% is that this also has a unique reason beyond our current understanding. This can be an easy way to victimize yourself even more, and because of that, it is super important to believe in your own strengths.

Fear of the Ego’s Death

Being afraid of death can exactly manifest all those fears and thoughts in your head. In my opinion, this is the biggest reason for depression and suicide. Just because of the fear that something might happen, you start to think, feel, and act totally as if it really is happening.

In a sense, it is crucial to stop the automated behavior, and one of the resources could be to read a book like “Conversations With God” ** from bestselling author Neale Donald Walsch. He sold his book over 20 million times,  and I have to say that the first three books of his series are a huge eye-opener.

In my opinion, all these five different reasons combined add up to and can result in the state of depression.

You still may think; “Can depression kill you?”

I was afraid of death and of health issues. I almost lost hope in life and wanted to give up. And I victimized myself for over three years. We see that a lot of people get killed by depression.

Do you know why I didn’t choose to do it? Because I would have felt guilty for my family and friends. Plus, I had this inner voice telling me: “This is not the time to go yet.””. Therefore, it was the correct decision to stay.

But even if you say: “I do not have a family or friends, I do not care, and my inner voice is urging me to ‘just do it,’” please read the next chapters carefully.

Why is killing yourself the biggest illusion of all?

First of all: You cannot be certain that you will have a better life or a better situation after your current life.

So, can depression kill you?

Science and consciousness are displaying the possibility of an afterlife more than ever before. There are countless reports of near-death experiences, out-of-body experiences, and flashbacks to earlier life’s stories.

So, escaping through suicide is the worst thing you can think of, and chances are high that you will just be starting over to learn from your own misinterpretations.

In that case, it is better to stay strong and learn how to love yourself.

Now is the time to really work it out!

High Sensitivity to Environment

Your thoughts and feelings are also influenced by those of other people around you. This is happening more often than we think – especially for highly sensitive personalities.

So, can depression kill you?

No – seriously!-  thinking that you should deal with depressed feelings by killing yourself can be a huge misconception – maybe the thoughts and feelings aren’t even yours!

After I learned how to program my subconscious mind to a very deep extent, a lot changed.

For example, I was able to tell the difference between my emotions and others’. Since that time, I am super happy about my highly sensitive personality.

Misconceptions of Suicides

What are three of the favorite things people really think happen after their suicide attempt?

1. That they go back to heaven.
2. That all of their problems will be solved.
3. That life finally “ends”.

In this sense, it can be a really big illusion, and suicide is a “white flag” give-up action.

How Do You Prevent a Suicide with the Power of Self-Love?

You still may think; “Can depression kill you?”

“If you love your life, ending it would be paradoxical. If you hate your life, ending it would be even more paradoxical.”

Let us talk about five direct strategies that help in case of depression.

Before that, I have one important suggestion.

Getting medical help can support you in very dark times, so I do not recommend that you just skip seeing a professional. However, in the long-term it is very important to think about further strategies than only going to a professional who treats mental health problems, because you can only solve them yourself.

Medical help can be good for a short time, however working on yourself to release your unprocessed experiences from your past is crucial!

So, can depression kill you? Not if you apply the following five strategies that will help boost your current self-love state.

5 Self-Love Strategies for Suicide Prevention

The First Strategy

Set short-term goals for the next hours, day and maximum the next weeks. Also talk about mid-term goals that you have already achieved within the last six to twelve months. For now, do not bother about long-term goals. It really does not matter for now which level of happiness will you reach within three to ten years.

For example: Find a great reason for a mindful smile every day and your weekly goal could be to automatically integrate your mindfulness smile into your day.

At the same time, integrating two to three of the five strategies can also be considered as a great goal to achieve.

The Second Strategy

Influence your mental state directly before sleep and after waking up, because this will have the strongest effect!

I recommend meditating in these phases because there is just no excuse not to do it. Also, smart affirmations, like, “Every day, in every aspect, I am happier,” or “Every day, in every aspect, I automatically transform my pain into happiness,” can work like a miracle.

Important: If you really want to change your status quo, being in a helpless state does not help anyone.

The Third Strategy

Here is a short-term selection of solutions you can integrate in your daily routine.

• Working out in the gym.
• Watching funny videos.
• Meeting friends.
• Walking in nature.
• Practicing meditation.

All the tips above are also distractions, so I recommend from the heart to integrate breaks in everyday life, i.e. to pause as often as possible. After a certain time of pausing, you will realize how big you have made even the smallest things in your life. You will realize that life is very beautiful, quiet and worth living, if we treat ourselves, nature and others in a loving and gentle way.

The Fourth Strategy

Start to accept your state of mind as it is. One of the best instant ways is to increase your level of mindfulness by learning daily meditations.

Visit high-quality seminars like Dr. Joe Dispenza’s eight-day meditation retreat. Thousands of people attend each of his seminars because the seminars just work so well.

Therefore, your transformation from pain to power or self-hate to self-love can be a lot quicker or even in an instant.

The Fifth Strategy

The more you think about your hardships, the more you manifest them in your life. It cannot get any worse.

Therefore, your transformation from pain to power or self-hate to self-love can be achieved much quicker or even in an instant.

Observe your daily thoughts and write down your negative and positive thoughts. By doing so, it is easier to analyze that you probably also have a lot of positive thoughts, and your current challenge is that you give more weight to your negative thoughts than your positive thoughts.

It is standard for most humans to give more weight to the negativity in their life.

For instance, you are out in your favorite coffee shop, and five people smile and are nice to you, so you are happy. The moment another person looks at you in an angry or depressed way, it negates all the positivity you felt before and you ask yourself, “Did I do something wrong? Why did that guy look at me like that?”

Writing down your thoughts and sensations can help you a lot.

Bonus: Actively read more about self-love and check out how to release your inner fears. I recommend reading my complete self-love blueprint.

So in the end, can depression kill you?

Not really. You have the power to unlock your true potential of happiness and this is your current goal to achieve!

Thanks a lot for reading my complete article. I am happy to serve you the way I can.

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Last article update: 27.04.2021

Below, you will find the most complete blueprint about self-love online. 

This blueprint will guide you step by step to finally achieve your ultimate self-love and let go of fear. As a result, you will realize that your relationship with the environment, such as the people around you, will be immensely improved.

Note that this article is the most extensive single resource that you can find about self-love, combining my own experiences with a scientific and philosophical approach.

Here are my suggestions:

1. Bookmark this page, and come back at any time to continue your reading and practice.
2. Make use of the outline below to navigate.

Enjoy!

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Outline: 

What is Self-Love All About?

• The definition of self-love
• What is self-love?
• The story of Mahatma Gandhi
• 11 self-love quotes for a deeper understanding

Why Should You Care about Self-Love?

• Why it matters to categorize goals in life
• The end of depressions, burnouts, and panic attacks?
• The impact on our environment and relationships

Dominik’s Story: How to Love Myself.

• My old self: the power of my past
• Transformation: radical self-love
• The state of complete forgiveness

How to Learn Self-Love?

• Self-love practices
• Self-love techniques

Self-Love Tips and Tricks – Master Your Self-Love

• 6 self-love books
• 3 meditations to love yourself
• 12 self-love affirmations
• 3 afformations to love yourself

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What is Self-Love All About?

The Definition of Self-Love

A frequently used definition of self-love is: self-love is the love of the self, and it is one’s own state of well-being and happiness.

Do you beat yourself up over failures? Are you self-critical? Do you think you are not good enough? Do you have to fight for your self-esteem?

To sum up, these questions are exactly the opposite of self-love. 

However, self-love can also differ a lot from person to person, because it is one of the most mysterious life experiences that human beings can have. For the same reason, it is important for us to get to the truth of our own self-love and make our own definition for it.

With my life experience, my definition of self-love is a bit different from the frequently used one.

My personal definition of self-love is:

“TRUE FORGIVENESS, UNLIMITED CONFIDENCE and Experiencing the truth behind our mask.”

Self-love is a gateway to true love: at the same time, self-love is still inside the illusion of the self, because it is connected to vanity.

In conclusion, it is important to remember that self-love mostly is inside the ego construct. The uniqueness of it is that it is a gateway to your higher self and true self. Therefore, we could also understand by self-love that it is the love of the true self. 

What is Self-Love?

Now that we have a general definition of self-love, let’s go deeper into it.

What is self-love in our private, business, and personal life?

In private life, it can be the way we communicate with friends and our family. Especially the communication between ourself and our parents heavily reveals the state of our mindset or the state of our consciousness.

For example, are we kind to each other or do we fight a lot? Are we in contact with each other regularly? How often does our state of consciousness change after we meet with our parents for dinner, over Christmas or, during holidays?

To me at any time and to a serious degree.

It is worthwhile to remind ourselves of one rule in our universe: what we send out will come back, or we get what we give. This rule also applies to self-love. You will read more about this in my personal story later.

Be Kind Towards Yourself and Others

If you’re always kind towards yourself and others, as a result, your self-love is already in good shape.

There might be times that a family member or a friend triggers you out of your comfort zone. The most important thing for you is to be aware of it immediately and reflect on your behavior as quickly as possible, then communicate it between you two.

You could say that;

The quicker we solve communication Problems and fights in our life, the higher your level of awareness is.

Which role does learn about self-love carry here?

The role of self-forgiveness.

We are able to forgive ourself and others immediately, even if we are 100% sure others are “wrong”. So it is possible to train self-love – like we train a muscle in sports.

If we love ourself to a certain level, as a result, we don’t care about being right or wrong. The only thing that matters is solving communication problems as quickly as possible for the greater good.

However, nothing from above seems reasonable and true for us. Therefore we start to think:

“Okay, and what about me? This is not how it works for me and I’m only in pain in love relationships and the relationship with myself.” 

Then this is a chance, because this full guide will help transform pain into power, self-hate into self-love, and hardships into simple matters. 

What is Self-Love in the Working Environement?

In business or work, the aspects of self-love are totally different than in our private life.

For most men and women, it’s hard to implement the same level of self-love with everyone at work, and therefore, it can be a real challenge. At the same time, it’s a big chance to improve their self-love.

To clarify self-love to a greater extent, also means: being strong and self-confident, trusting yourself, and being self-aware. When we integrate this clarity into our daily lives, we learn about self-love on a new level.

On the other hand, the self is a lot of times hurt by delays of the rule: “You get what you give.”

But wait, didn’t you say we always get what we give and it’s a general rule of the universe?

The Illusion of “You Get What You Give”

It’s not written in the textbook of the universe at which time we “receive”, because maybe it is 30 years later for what we “give” today or maybe it is 5 minutes later. To see how this rule really works out, smile at someone and receive instant gratification, when that person smiles back.

This is one of the illusions of the self. This is one of the paradoxes that the mind can’t grasp.

In conclusion, not everything we give, comes back right away. Patience is the key and self-love helps immensely. Also, transcending to unconditional love or true love beyond time and self or receiving wisdom about these mystics will help even more.

Firstly in the next chapter “The story of Mahatma Gandhi”, and secondly in my own story, you will understand more about true love.

What is Self-Love in Our Personal Life?

Let’s keep this one simple. Self-love in our personal life can manifest in our physical experience as one of the following:

• Easy to release fear (quick decision making, stay in the now)
• Being thankful for everything in life. (good and bad).
• Respecting all life forms, no matter how big or small.
• Eating and drinking behavior (maybe no meat and very little to no alcohol). Just an observation in my last 3 years of experiments with myself and friends.
• Some of the food in our society today is not so healthy (chemical) and a good lifestyle of body, mind, and spirit is a great sign of your self-love.
• Not rejecting something in life. Sometimes it’s okay to let our ego go “wild”. That means respecting and loving our ego, too. It doesn’t help to suppress the ego; this hurts the process of self-love a lot more.

We are on the verge of a whole new level of consciousness, collective humanity and some of the above will be self-understood in the near future for 95 – 99% of the population.

The Story of Mahatma Gandhi

Mahatma Gandhi is one of humanity’s great examples of unconditional love. He was a leader of independence, nonviolence, forgiveness, equality between men and women, and hope.

In the book “The Gift of Anger” by Arun Gandhi, are a lot of great examples of how Mahatma Gandhi applied unconditional love in his daily life.

The story of the last moments of Gandhi.

Every evening, Gandhi conducted prayer meetings and did his daily routines. For example, he was very famous for getting up super early in the morning for his meditation practices.

However, this time, it was different!

Gandhi was a revolutionary in Indian nationalism, as they felt too many of the changes happening because of him.

So, in one of thousands of prayer meetings, Godse, a member of the political party, went to see Gandhi. However, he didn’t want to talk to him, like all the others.

Unluckily, he planned an assassination, and it was successful.

What is the Surprise of his Legend?

Even at the last moments of his life, Gandhi loved the person who killed him. Gandhi was a leader of life itself, and this was the time for him to physically leave his body.

Still today, the Birla House (now Gandhi Smriti) is kind of the sacred place this happened, and until today, it is a well-visited place in New Delhi, India.

I found one highly interesting extract from the book:

“It is easy to love beings that love us but it’s hard to love beings that hate us.”

Mahatma Gandhi was one of the few humans that sub-consciously, consciously and over-consciously acted in this way of unconditional love for everything that exists. This is also known as the supra – or christ consciousness.

For most of us it is hard to understand it fully, because if you haven’t tasted unconditional or even self-love fully, how can we have the wisdom to apply it in our daily life?

If we never ate an apple, how is it possible for us to know the taste of the apple?

As mentioned before, Beyonduality’s mission is to open more mens and women’s heart for these specific topics, not only in a theoretical and philosophical way, also in a practical way of self-empowerment. This is what we call, “A journey to the inner heart.” 

11 Self-Love Quotes for a Deeper Understanding

1. “It is not enough to repeat “I love myself” every day to feel the love. Affirmations can block our inner journey.”

2. “We were born to love ourself; we should act like it.”

3. “There is no sense in punishing our future for the mistakes of our past. Forgive, release, and grow.”

4. “In order to love who we are, we can’t hate the experiences that shaped us.”

5. “True love is the only attribute that double’s in our universe when given.”

6. “Change one thought about yourself and it changes everything for you.”

7. “Everyone has the inherited power to achieve self-love, to live unconditional love and to express their true self.”

8. “Trust yourself. Forgive yourself. Empower yourself and fully love your past, present, and future to transcend your physical body and non-physical body.”

9. “The power of true love is stronger than the power of fear. The true love converts all of those fears of the mind in a blink of an eye.”

10. “Accept the illusion of archiving self-love or true-love to be able to fully live outside the illusion of self.”

11. “Do not strive with willpower for more self-love, as it will not be revealed to you. Do not strive with willpower for more acceptance, as it will not be revealed to you.”

Why should you care about self-love?

Why it matters to categorize goals in life.

There are two ways of archiving goals in life: selfish and selfless goals. Almost all of our goals in life are selfish. Selfish goals focus 100% on ourselves and don’t stop at causing damage to others.

A lot of people still confuse selfish behavior, that hurts and manipulate others, with selfless behavior, that improves both you and others in all aspects of life in a transparent and honest way.

Destructive selfishness unfolds in impatient environments. If a person feels he has to hurt others to achieve a certain goal in life, he hurts others. This is not necessarily something people are aware of. Especially when that goal has to be reached in a certain period of time and he can’t find another solution to achieve it.

This person lives in the illusion of constructive behavior and he does everything to achieve what he wants. Such a person can also justify their behavior in a very deceitful way.

That is because our ego construct wants more of everything. More friends, more money, more power, and most importantly, more love. The root of selfish behavior is the fear of ego-insignificance

True love unites our selfish and selfless goals, and transcend them to unconditional selflessness. As true love can be mastered through parts of your self-love, self-love matters to achieve worthwhile goals.

The End of All Depressions, Burnouts, and Panic Attacks?

Negative stress (distress) can lead to many adverse health problems, including depressions, burnouts and panic attacks.

New studies nicely illustrate how mindfulness, meditations, and self-love alter the likelihood of depressions, burnouts, and panic attacks. Recently I published an article about 5 strategies that help against depressions or even suicide.

But in the first place: why did negative stress levels grow several thousand percent in the last 10 years?

Our DNA imprints and molecular structures from thousands and tens of thousands of years ago are re-activated. Because we live in a competitive era of digitalization, we force ourselves over the limit of stress, no matter what it costs. 

The source of knowledge has grown exponentially over the world wide web. We seemingly know more than ever before, but at the same time, our field of tension has grown.

We read books, listen to podcasts, or attend seminars, but we can not always implement the new knowledge. Our own DNA imprints and subconscious programs hold us back. 

Why Do Our Thoughts Matter?

A fish asks,”What water? THERE IS NO WATER.”

A human asks, “What thought? There is no thought!”

Funnily enough, we just forgot how to use the specific parts of our body. For example, every day we use those neural connections in our brain to learn new languages and improve our physical body circumstances.

However, we rarely use those advanced neural networks to adapt our mental circumstances in our era of the internet. 

The problem is, the more automated thoughts we have, the more likely we are to be victimized and affected in our mental and physical health.

In our minds, there are a lot of unprocessed experiences from the past and the future. As a result, I myself experienced heavy depressions and panic attacks over 10 years ago.

Meanwhile, I was able to transcend them by working on my unprocessed experiences and mindfulness practices. More about this in my personal story and in “How to practice self-love”.

In my opinion, activating self-love by processing and understanding past and future experiences in your life helps to transcend depressions, burnouts, or panic attacks in the most efficient way.

In general, mindfulness, self-love, and meditation practices help improve your mental and physical health immensely.

Read another study from Harvard medical school and Dr. Joe Dispenza’s blogpost about depression at a molecular level.

The Impact in Our Environment and Relationships

Until now, we have only scratched on the surface of true love and self-love, because if you haven’t consciously experienced true love, it is impossible for you to implement it in your daily life.

Self-love has a huge impact on all of our relationships, because only when we love ourselves, are we able to love others.

For instance, it is also not possible to share 10,000 USD with a charity organization if you only have 2,000 USD on your savings account. How do you expect to love others, if you do not love yourself?

A majority of people focus on the love for their kids, family, friends, dogs, and cats, and totally forget about their own love towards themselves.

In the first place, it is great to love everyone else, if you also include yourself in that equation.

Therefore what are the skills to be mastered?

• Self-Forgiveness
• Self-Confidence
• Self-Acceptance
• Self-Empowerment
• Honesty
• Selflessness
• Compassion 
• Empathy
• Authenticity

In the moments we fully forgive ourself and others, true miracles happen.

Ultimately, for an advanced love relationship, we always have full responsibility of our own life.

But taking full responsibility of our life is easy to talk about and hard to implement in our daily life. For example, most people wouldn’t admit to being 100% responsible for their health problems or the state of planet Earth.

It is easy to give away the responsibility by saying:

“All this chemical food, my job, and the global industry are the reasons behind my problem. What to do? There is nothing I can do.”

It is time to observe ourselves more than ever in history, because we live in a world of exponentially daily transformations. Therefore it is better to go with the flow and improve our level of self-love and consciousness.

Dominik’s Story: How to Love Myself

You find a lot of personal stories on the internet, and all of them have their own unique purpose. Mine is meant to show the power of creating your own destiny and how to love yourself.

Since I never felt like a genius in my journey of life, it is most likely that your inner transformations are a lot quicker and that it is easier to reach your unique goals than it was for me.

My Old Self and the Power of my Past

The past will shape your destiny. Most people have heard about this nowadays, however, back in my days as a small kid, this knowledge was deeply hidden.

My mum was always very strong in convincing me: “Life should be normal,” especially later on in my puberty. “Get a job,” “Pay the bills,” “Find a girlfriend,” “Stay safe.”

Back when I was a small child, I was sure my only purpose of life is to play football. I dreamed about being a star in football from a very young age and that there is nothing else I could achieve.

My Isolated Environment

Back when I was 6-year-old, because of an incident, I couldn’t do sports for at least two more years. I felt abandoned by myself and my balance as a kid vanished because thinking began to be primary and not movements with my body as I wanted to.

Also, I grew up in a small village and football seems one of the view reasons to have fun in life for most people.

My environment was great to support my self-victimization, exactly what I manifested to experience!

I had hard times at home and with my friends, and I completely lost my self-esteem over the next nine years. 

All of this were excuses by my narrowed mind. For sure it triggered something back in my childhood and I consider my childhood very hard, because when you start to think others do not love you and you continue to believe that one-sided thoughts, a lot of unhappiness is ahead. 

Why Does This Happen to Me?

I asked questions like:

• What is this life even good for?
• Does it really make sense to go on in life?
• Why is this all happening to me?
• How to love myself?

Basically, this was not a time to discover my self-love.

At the top of my self-hatred, I even wanted to kill myself as I experienced deep depressions and even panic attacks for a certain period in my life. In that period of time, I had another two injuries, and – what coincidence – they were the exact same injuries I had when I was six.

I hated myself, felt irritated by life, but there was this deep inner voice saying “Everything is good”.

My mother always told me: “Other people have it a lot worse.” Well, she tried to help, but it didn’t help a lot to come out my feelings of inner emptiness at that time. 

Until the inner change began!

From the age of 22, it was also the first time I read books about self-improvement – books like Rich Dad Poor Dad or Think and Grow Rich from Napoleon Hill.

These books helped me to understand basic mind and philosophy topics. Because of that, I began to find interest in business and consciousness development, mostly backed by scientific researches back then.

Transformation: Radical Self-Love

After my first year of business experience, I started a podcast with my very good friend Matthias. As we started with our first interviews guests, Matthias told me:

“Let’s interview Jürgen; he is a good friend of mine and he has plans for his eight-day event so people can improve their quality of life. I visited one of his events over 20 years ago and it is great to improve people’s lives.”

For that reason alone, I listened with great focus to the interview of Matthias and Jürgen.

With extraordinary details and simplicity, Jürgen said the following:

“Why should a higher quality of life only be possible by going through pain? Through the exact same pain that WE experienced in our past. That doesn’t make any sense.”

He further explained:

“The development of our quality of life should bring us joy and fun! But with many methods and events that exist on the market today, we are still sent through pain, which is inefficient and discouraging.”

Do it the Easy Way

So, it clicked inside my head, “Yeah, he is right,” and his seminars caught my full interest.

Before this time, I read in several books:

“For processing the unprocessed past experience, go through the exact same pain again.”

Because of that, I was never interested in subconscious contemplation. At the same time, I was even thinking about the dangers from these subconscious, hidden topics.

But now there is this experienced, 68-year-old-German guy, I would never heard of who developed his own method for over 40 years.

Simply, it is a method that helps you individually to change your subconscious programming with scientific backgrounds at a very deep level. If you are interested in reading more about it in future articles, let me know.

Because he lived about 15 years on his ship, having adventures, his method was a total no-name, however people from back in the nineties and even earlier still remembered and loved the method. For that reason, he decided to come back, rebuilding his company and finding people to continue on the legend.

Luckily, I then had the privilege to help build it up, going to my first event in December 2016. It was a special event because we were only 6 attendants. Normally, the minimum is at least 10-15 to even start the event.

Training six people for eight days can only be done for pure passion, and the founder, Jürgen, was feeling that this seminar was very important.

Magic just Happens

So, in this week firstly, I learned one of the easiest available ways to process the unprocessed experiences from the past, going step by step back to my younger self and checking which situations in today’s life are happening because of my old belief systems. All of that in a scientific way which, amazed me.

Slowly, I understood why I had the same knee injury four times in my past. My unprocessed emotions and experiences were so strong, that I manifested it another three times after the first injury at the age of six. So, understanding this for myself the first time, I began to realize how powerful I can be, how powerful everyone can be.

Knowing that my knees are not only weak, because of my DNA and destiny. Knowing that my knees have weak points because of my own emotional states. Therefore, my unprocessed experiences created that weak points in the first place.

This Knowledge Changed Everything

What did you yourself manifest so many times in your life? Take your time and really think about it.

Secondly, I experienced a state of pure ecstasy in an extraordinary contemplation exercise on day 6. Crazily enough, that reshaped my whole self and my self-love was recovered a lot. Receiving deep life insights that were hidden in the subconscious mind and beyond, made me realize what life is all about.

Increase the quality of your own life by forgiving yourself and others. Take it easy. 

Therefore, start loving yourself and others.

You can do it, too.

The State of Complete Forgiveness

However, this was just the beginning of my inner journey. One of the most surprising experiences was that after this eight-day event, my perception changed a lot.

Some people might even refer to it a “new-born” feeling.

Before, I wrote about my fights with my mum when I was younger. We always had big tensions with each other. Whether it was on the phone or visiting each other, fights were inevitable.

After my first seminar, this changed 180 degree’s. From then on, my mum could not trigger me, as she could before. So, since that time, my relationship with my mum changed a lot.

It was because I completely forgave myself and my mum for whatever we were doing to each other.

Because of these sensible changes, I invested more time than ever before in my own self-improvements, visiting over ten events of Jürgen in only two years of time.

I am happy that I was able to attend and master the complete offline seminar series of around four weeks. From that time until today, a lot of friends and I kept practicing at home all of the time.

How to Learn Self-Love?

Let’s move on to the most joyful self-love part. Before I introduce you to my tools and inspirations, let us ask ourselves if we can learn self-love. My view is that on the one hand we remember a part of self-love that has always been within us. This part is the inner light from our core of being.

On the other hand, we develop ourselves every moment and thus expand our self-love and our inner light. If we follow our activities and achieve breakthroughs in life, our self-love will expand on another level.

This is a paradox, of development and non development, of stillness and movement. In the world of paradoxes both realities exist and therefore we can look at self-love from multiple planes of our being.

You learn true self-love for yourself as soon as you no longer see yourself only as a physical body with given name and surname, but as an entity with endless potential that is currently making a joyful journey in the human body.

Although I will hardly or not at all go into this depth in the following resources, because we can only extract this depth from within ourselves, it was important to me to briefly touch on the subject.

Learning self-love paradoxically has endless levels in endless universes. It is fascinating how science gets closer and closer to the world of paradoxes and reveals new discoveries. 

Info: Updates in this chapter “How to Learn Self-Love?” will be more frequently. Major updates like my meditation practices and major events will be sent via my newsletter.

Self-Love Practices to Learn Self-Love

The Power of Your Environment to Learn Self-Love

In my story and a lot of other people’s stories, it is clear, that staying inside the environment of your family, can be super challenging.

Therefore, it all depends on what your goals from heart in life are. All of it affects your self-love learning.

1. Do you want to support your mum and dad from home?
2. In which way do you want to support them?
3. Do you already have your own family and kids to support?

I learned one truth.

When staying very close to your primary environment (before the age of six) it takes a long time to change these energy structures (habits, programs). Maybe some geniuses can do it, but honestly, I could not.

I had to leave home at the age of 19 to be able to self-improve on my own with no influence from my family.

So, you ask how to learn self-love? A wise choice could be leaving your family home behind and starting your own life journey, depending on your goals from heart in life.

The Biggest Life Changer

This can be the biggest life changer in all your lifetime.

As an example, I wouldn’t be able to move straight from my small village to Cyprus. I had to move from my hometown to another town 40 minutes away by car, and then after 3 years I decided to move 3 hours away by car.

Therefore, I was not enough under the influence of my family to lose interest pursuing my dream of living in another country.

Check Your Own Situation

• Did you move already?
• Are you still super close and see your parents every day?

Most importantly, it does not mean you do not love your family if you decide to move. From an energy point of view, you are always connected.

For example, maybe you had the experience that your mum, your dad or another important person called you, and 30 seconds before the incoming call, you had the feeling or thoughts of your mum or dad.

There are millions of examples in stories and we are all very strongly connected to our family and close friends.

This not only applies for your family. Check also your friends and see if they move in the direction you want to move in.

Do your friends inspire you and let you grow?

There is this saying:

“The 5 people you spend the most time with, influence you and your environment the most.”

Who are these five people in your closest inner circle?

Are your friends helping you to achieve your dreams?

Are your friends guiding you to learn self-love?

If one of them is totally doing the opposite, reduce the time with the friend first and check how it is going.

Some basic changes help to improve your self-love immensely.

Understanding Yourself to Learn Self-Love

Knowing your passion, strengths, and weaknesses is important to ultimately transcend your small identity and lower vehicles into your greater universal identity and higher vehicle.

“If you do not know what you love to do in life, how can you expect to love yourself?”

Mindfulness Training to Learn Self-Love

Daily mindfulness training is very powerful. Firstly, you can do simple meditation practices to observe your own thoughts, your breath, and your body and inner sensations.

It is like the fish in the water that forgot that he is in the water. You might have forgotten, most of your thoughts and because of that your thoughts, can easily victimize you.

“Measure your daily mindfulness by a lot of small actions, not only the big actions.”

Most likely, you create your own template of what is best for you after years of practicing.

I suggest starting with a ten- to twenty-minute meditation once a day and several one-minute breath meditations over the day, whenever you feel like it.

In the extra chapter, there are 3 self-love meditations.

Secondly, be thankful for what you have in life – the daily food, your health, and everything else.

If you think you want to improve your self-love, the best way is to be thankful for the state you are in at this moment of your life.

Before you are able to love yourself, you have to accept all that is, and then it is possible for you to change and move on.

Two mindfulness meditation practices: 

First of all, it depends on what type of personality you are: auditory, like listening to podcasts and you are good at remembering what you hear; visual, like watching videos; and the third is kinesthesia, like touching.

In this article, I focus on auditory and visual. I would recommend you to try both and check what is working best for you.

For Auditory individuals

Just close your eyes, lie or sit somewhere, and use a simple mantra, like ah-limm-bar-dih-dim , ah-limm-baa-dih-dim. Both „bar” and „baa” should be in a good rhythm.

Why should I use a mantra?

The reason why a mantra like this to learn self-love is good from a mind perspective is that you train your automatic mind to stop being automatic, and by repeating this mantra or another one, that is intellectually meaningless, you replace the standard floating, never-ending mind.

For visual individuals

See a football before your eyes, black white normal, and let it change the colors to red and blue, then rotate the ball slowly and change again to different colors. The picture should be like a water painting, no need to have it in Ultra HD. If your mind tries to talk in between, just go back to the visualizing; same goes for the mantra. Then, change the form to something else, too—leave your mind no place to disturb.

Just do it 2 times a day for 20 minutes, wherever you can, for 3 months until you check results.

The best time might be before sleep, when there is more brain and thought activity there, and some other “intense” time of the day.

Anyway, you don’t need something special like music; you can do it anywhere at all times.

What is also good is to breathe in and out actively and observe it closely. That way, your thoughts also decrease a lot.

Techniques to Practice Self-love

Re-programming your mind

In my opinion, there are on-the-surface tools to reprogram your mind and really deep tools to reprogram your mind. Each reprogramming from heart is guiding you to learn self-love and be ultimately in harmony with your whole being.

On-the-surface contemplation:

Affirmations to Learn Self-Love

Find out everything about affirmations in the last chapter, including 12 amazing Self-Love affirmations.

Frequencies to Learn Self-Love

Sometimes, I really like to use frequencies to balance out my body, mind, and spirit again.

Then, why exactly are frequencies good for your self-love and your self-care in general? Are they really helpful?

To a certain extent, I believe it is better not to get addicted to frequencies that “fake” a higher frequency, a frequency state that you did not reach yet, because this can backfire at any point.

For example, this is similar to a deep wound that you previously had. For a wound, it also is a bad idea to only put something on the surface and hide it.

Frequencies are no different, and they can help in your current state. However, frequencies should be considered as helping stones, not as a primary self-improvement technique to heighten your basic state of consciousness.

Here Are Two Frequencies That Can Support Your Self-Love Learning Process

The first frequency I listen to is “The Frequency of LOVE”. For over two years, I experienced it, and it is one of the few frequencies I always enjoyed. In the bigger picture, I think it is difficult to find a very good, free, online frequency. Therefore, you have to check the style that fits for you, too.

The second frequency is a mantra. Sometimes, I can’t think of listening to something better then Ajai Alai, because it really brings you into your power.

Reading books, listening to podcasts, or watching videos

Most people like these efforts the most. You can learn about some of my favorite books in the extra chapter. Podcasts and videos can also be a very good medium through which to receive more knowledge from others, however, it does not mean that you are able to implement that in your daily life. I am in the middle of two articles about the best podcasts and YouTube personalities to follow for a higher self-love.

Deep contemplation:

Professional, guided meditations with self-hypnosis

I am also planning an article about deeper guided meditations in the near future. As this is a complex topic and it is important to me that you learn it the right way, I am taking my time.

Methods like Jürgen’s. (check my story)

I will have a closer look at how it is possible for me to show step-by-step how it is working. Questions are one part of the method. Another part is a bio-feedback system. Whenever you plan to really go all out, I can’t think of a better way to transform your self-love.

I found a great alternative for “Jürgen’s” method internationally.

My Favorite System: Discover Your Strengths, Weaknesses and the Higher Purpose of Life

Gene Keys is a magical system, not a mechanical system. A path to the open countryside, which can be performed online. I highly recommend you to read my new Gene Keys article – My Deep Inner Exploration for You + Amazing Tools

Seminars and events

Dr. Joe Dispenza’s eight-day meditation retreat can help you immensely for your self-improvement and self-love.

Daily-Tip: All seminars, books, podcasts and other methods are not helping at all, if you can’t implement them in your daily life.

Efficient and quick self-love toolbox

One of the best methods, for quick self-help is Hoʻoponopono. It is a Hawaiian practice of reconciliation and forgiveness. 

It works super easily and can be applied anywhere. Always repeat these four sentences in your head or say them out loud, and continue until you feel relieved and calm.

“I am sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you.”

The order is very simple and powerful. “Forgiveness, Gratitude, and Loving Yourself.”

 Self-Love Tips and Tricks – Master Your Self-Love

6 Self-Love Books

(Read myself) How to Win Friends & Influence People **

I love this book because it was one of my very first books to read, and if you are not familiar with it, I can highly recommend it to you. However, be careful not to read it on the surface and feel, ” Ah, exactly, that is why I am having such troubles.”

This book is also better for advanced readers in this matter.

(Read myself) Becoming Supernatural: How Common People Are Doing the Uncommon **

This is also one of my favorite books to understand more of your inner being. Dr. Joe Dispenza is a genius in a lot of ways and this book helps to improve your self-love and healing abilities.

I did not read the other books yet, however these are the books where my feelings told me: “If you plan to improve your self-love, check out these books.”

All of them seem honest and great to read. So, if you are really interested in more readings besides my blog, also check out the following four books to have a greater insight from more minds in the space of self-love.

1. Unfu*k Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and into Your Life *
2. The Revolution Of Self-Love: A Yearlong Journey Of Self-Love: 52 Authors, Stories, And Exercises *
3. Love Yourself, Heal Your Life Workbook (Insight Guide) *
4. Madly in Love with ME: The Daring Adventure of Becoming Your Own Best Friend *

3 Meditations For Self-Love

I did all of these meditations myself and loved them the most out of a lot of self-love meditations. 

Michelle Chalfant has a beautiful voice to transport the true feeling of love, which is very rare to see. Therefore, I can really recommend all of the meditations of Michelle.

12 Self-Love Affirmations

The effects of affirmations are stronger when you say them out loud. Efficiency greatly improves when you use gestures, like pressing your hand on your heart when you say, “I love myself.”

It is important that all of your cells accept it deeply, because only telling it to your mind is not helping at all. Telling yourself that your body is skinny when you actually are not skinny doesn’t do the trick, either! You have to practice and master it.

Choose whatever feels right for you, or create your own affirmations. It is important to write your affirmation in the “now”. In a sense, you achieved the unachieved already. Because in your spiritual mind, there is always space to have it achieved already.

For example, if you say “I maybe love myself,” “Others love me,” or “I would like to love myself,” that doesn’t right away means, that you love yourself. That is because your mind is 100% accurate and “maybe” or “i would like to” is not a straight forward command to love yourself.

Keep it Short and Simple

It is also good to keep the affirmations short and simple. It is better to separate your “I love, accept, and trust myself” In “I love myself,” I accept myself,” and “I trust myself.”

I know some are not doing it in that way. This is just my honest opinion, because in this way, it is easier to process the different sensations and feelings behind your mentality. Therefore, your higher self and your mind know exactly what you are up to and process it instantly.

I also recommend that you change your sub-programs with specific methods. There is one big challenge with affirmations. For example, if your inner programs of “I hate myself” have too much influence and energy behind them, the affirmation “I love myself” will have little to no effect.

You have to find out where the unprocessed experience of “I hate myself” is coming from, and then you have to transform this energy structure to create space for your new creation of “I love myself”.

It is not super important to know everything right away, and I plan to explain it very clearly in extra blog articles soon.

12 Basic Self-Love Affirmations:

• I love myself.
• I accept myself.
• My heart is always helping me to understand myself very deeply.
• I trust myself.
• I understand myself and others.
• My truth knows what to do to enhance my self-love.
• My self-love is very strong.
• I understand that imperfection is a part of being a human, and it is okay.
• My true love only requires true love.
• I love the way I have created my life until this date.
• I let go of everything that blocks my self-love.
• Completely forgiving myself is easy for me.

Great ideas to trick your mind:

The challenge with affirmations, a lot of times, is that the “I hate myself” part is almost impossible to conquer. That you love yourself every day more and more is easier to implement.

First: Every day, I love myself a little bit more.

Second: Every day, in every aspect, I accept myself more.

Third: Every day, in every aspect, I forgive myself more and more.

3 Self-Love Afformations:

Also, afformations are an awesome long-term help, because they trick your mind and go deeper into your subconscious mind.

What is the difference between affirmations and afformations?

Instead of telling yourself, “I love myself, (Affirmation)” ask yourself “Why do I allow myself to love myself so much? (Afformation)” or “Why is it so easy for me to love myself.”

By asking yourself a question, your mind can not block that thought going into your subconscious mind.

First: Why do I allow myself to love myself so much?

Second: Why do I accept myself so deeply?

Third: Why do I trust myself so deeply?

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